Update: It’s been nearly 2 months since we moved in together. PSA: IT’S NOT EASY. IT TAKES WORK. But the good thing is that it’s still totally worth it.
In the beginning, as we picked out furniture and décor, it became really obvious from the get-go that we had two completely different styles.
He is dark and modern – think leather futon and industrial bar stools. I am light and traditional – think pastel couch and fuzzy white rugs. You can see where we might have conflict…
Anyway it takes us forever to decide on one piece of furniture. I’ve basically given up and let him do it all.
Anyway, I came home the other day and he was so excited. Proud, even.
“Did you notice anything?”
I glanced at the very obvious addition – a brown desk, a white filing drawer and a gray shelf nailed to the wall, all side by side. He’d created his own little office.
“That ugly desk and filing cabinet you shoved up against the wall? Yeah, I noticed it.”
I regretted the words the moment they left my mouth. It was rude and insensitive, but it just came out. (I have to work on that.)
Anyway it caused an argument. Not a huge one, but we bickered, nonetheless. About how I’m rude and that he needs a place to work. And why can’t he work at the island in the kitchen, blah blah blah.
I came to work the next morning to vent to my coworker.
I sighed and plunked myself into my desk chair. She already knew I was prepared to complain.
When I finally got done whining about the colors and arrangement of his desk setup in the living room. She said one thing that stuck with me.
“I’ve been there. But think about it like this… that desk is paying half of your rent.”
That’s when I realized I’m a huge jerk and I should maybe be a little nicer when it comes to things like this.
I know it’s not super deep and sentimental, but if that thought had occurred to me previously, I probably wouldn’t have objected to the desk in the first place.
So here are a couple of tips for staying sane when living in a tiny apartment with your significant other:
- Hold your tongue. If you’re about to spout a mean comment that serves no actual purpose, don’t. Just don’t.
- Compromise is key. You’re not going to agree on everything. Choose your battles wisely.
- Alone time/time with just your friends is good! It gives you a chance to miss each other. Do it.
- But that doesn’t mean to stop dating! Just because you see each other everyday doesn’t mean you have to quit going to dinner.
- Be grateful. Instead of griping that he didn’t do the laundry how you like it – thank him for doing it.
I’m learning about him, sure. But I’ve definitely learned more about myself, and man, I can be annoying. I was too busy noticing his dirty socks on the floor to realize that I cover the entire bathroom counter with makeup and hair products. 🤷♀️