Breakups suck. They really do. You just spent months (or years) getting to know someone; you probably thought the two of you really had a shot at lasting. And then BAM, you find out he’s married. Or BAM he tells you he’s gay.
Anyway, breakups can be really difficult sometimes. If you haven’t been through a traumatic breakup, you might not know what to do at first. Thankfully, I’ve had my share of hideous, hideous breakups, and I’m here to share my wisdom.
First and foremost, don’t let yourself get lonely. When you get lonely, you get sad and you start over analyzing the relationship. Give it a rest. Take your mind off of it. Talk to those friends who are always so motivational and send you positive, uplifting texts.
Second, it’s OK to be cliche. It’s OK to play Adele’s new album on repeat while you shed a few tears. But ALWAYS, ALWAYS follow the sad songs with Survivor or Independent Women by Destiny’s Child. I’m serious, these songs work wonders for a low self-esteem.
Another thing, work on yourself. Let’s be honest, you just got out of a committed relationship. You probably haven’t shaved your legs or been to the gym in ages. Get on that! Dig out that blow dryer you haven’t touched since y’all’s 6th date and work on yourself. You honestly shouldn’t let yourself go just because you’re in a relationship but, hey, we’re only human.
Now, once you’ve contoured the shit out of your face, go outside on a sunny day and spend a good 30 minutes taking a flawless selfie. It’s OK to change angles and compare the lighting in different areas. But take that selfie and post it on all of your social media accounts. Even Twitter. Then text all of your girlfriends and say “Go like my pic HURRY!” or in my case.. “RT plz.”
(I’m not even ashamed.)
After that, make plans. You’re all dolled up, staring at yourself in the mirror wondering, “Why did I ever stop dressing up?” Don’t let it go to waste! Grab lunch with a friend or head out for a Girl’s Night. But I can’t stress it enough, BE CAREFUL. No one is more vulnerable than a drunk girl who just got out of a relationship. Don’t drink excessively to the point where you’re sloppy.
Just have fun and remember what it was like to be hot and single, rather than Netflix & Chillin’ with your cheating/gay boyfriend.
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