My heart aches as I write this. Because I know that one day my sisters will feel the same pain I do, if they haven’t already. I remember the first time I was called a slut. I was 12 or 13. A girl called me a slut because I kissed my boyfriend at the movies. And you know what? I believed it. I was ashamed. My dad would’ve killed me had he found out. I shouldn’t be kissing boys. I thought to myself, “Oh my God, I am a slut.”
And then, that same boyfriend cheated on me. I broke up with him. I was in middle school. I was devastated. But I quickly got a new boyfriend. That, also, made me a slut. God forbid I move on without mourning the death of my middle school relationship. He didn’t take long to move on, because he’s a guy. But I’m a girl.. Should I have waited? Gosh, I’m becoming a real slut.
Then in high school I was a cheerleader. As you all know, to make the cheer squad, you must sleep with the entire football team. So automatically, I was a slut again. This is sarcasm, in case you didn’t know. But really. Cheerleaders are sluts apparently. We wear short skirts and do flips. Sluts. We go to football games and toilet paper the players’ homes. Hm, I did enjoy being a cheerleader. I liked the skirts and the pep rallies. That must mean I’m a slut.
I finally came to the realization that I’m not a slut. Know why? Because I cut a guy off on my way to work one day and he yelled out his car window, “SLUT!” Dead serious. I was recently called a slut after ignoring several Facebook messages from a guy I didn’t
want to talk to. Apparently that makes me a slut.
In a way, this is “slut shaming,” but I feel like you can’t even call it that sometimes.
Geek Feminism defines Slut Shaming as “the act of criticizing a woman for her real or presumed sexual activity or for behaving in ways that someone thinks are associated with her real or presumed sexual activity.”
How is the guy who yelled out his car window slut-shaming me? He knows nothing about me.
So what makes a slut a slut? Is it the way she dresses? Or because she didn’t wait long to move on from her relationship? Is this just a word to call women when they piss you off?
When did this become ok? This is a real thing now, y’all. Slut shaming. It’s heartbreaking, really.
In the words of Ms. Norbury from Mean Girls, “You all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it okay for guys to call you sluts and whores.”
Ok, I’m done. That’s my only feminist post for, like, the rest of the year. Maybe. Idk.